# Only Say Good Things ![rw-book-cover](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81eB753jK6L._SY160.jpg) ## Metadata - Author: [[Crystal Hefner]] - Full Title: Only Say Good Things - Category: #books ## Highlights - Playing the role of someone else’s image of you every day and every night is exhausting—physically, mentally, and in a way that feels like your soul is actually tired, like some kind of life energy battery is running low. ([Location 169](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=169)) - was responsible for my choices, but the cost felt so much higher than I could have ever imagined at the age of twenty-one. ([Location 212](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=212)) - I was an introvert living an extroverted life all the time, with no real way to recharge, and this misalignment came out in ways I didn’t expect: panic attacks. ([Location 1561](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=1561)) - But the downside of living in a safe and controlled environment is that you have no control. ([Location 1832](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=1832)) - In college I’d learned about the “sunk cost fallacy,” which is when someone is so heavily invested in something, they don’t walk away, even if it would be better for them if they did. A gambler who’s lost thousands will bet their last hundred on one last round and lose it, instead of escaping with that last little bit. A real estate investor keeps pouring more money into a bad deal instead of accepting the initial loss. ([Location 1905](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=1905)) - He began to depend on me physically and also depend on me to hide the big secret he was still trying to keep: He was aging and diminishing, and no number of young girls surrounding him could reverse that or make it not true. Everybody knew, of course, but my job was to help him believe that nobody could tell. ([Location 2489](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=2489)) - Stress is what they call a “wastebasket diagnosis.” A wastebasket diagnosis is where a person can actually be sick but the doctor doesn’t know what’s wrong with them, so they land on a bogus conclusion just to have a diagnosis. ([Location 2516](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=2516)) - Herxing is when you start cleaning up your diet and taking supplements or antibiotics, and your body starts detoxifying, and it makes you feel worse. ([Location 2528](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B0C3ZPTGF8&location=2528))